Break the Cycle of Self-Criticism

You can’t escape from yourself. You are also the reason why it’s so important, because you can’t escape, you’ll always be with yourself.

Have you noticed that no matter what responsibilities or roles you have in life, how hard it is for us to say something like: “I think I’m doing a pretty good job”?

It’s so hard for so many of us, and often we simply refrain. We prefer not to say!

In the best cases, we hold back; in the worst cases, we insult, judge, or minimize. We only see what needs improvement, the flaws, or the mistakes.

You know, the stereotypical harsh parent, right? The one who asks you with a stone face: “Why didn’t you do more?”

Maybe it wasn’t a parent. Maybe it was a teacher, a coach, or a boss. It’s like having someone who always pushes you to go to the next level. That’s not inherently bad, but when there’s no “congratulations, here’s how you can reach the next level,” only “why wasn’t this done?” then it’s not okay. It’s like no matter how good it was, it’s only about why it wasn’t that.

I ask you, how does it make you feel if you’ve dealt with a person like that earlier in life? You probably felt a lot of frustration with that person, right?