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I used to think that regret was about the past. Wrong! It’s about what we should plan to do.
Regret is an emotion. This emotion isn’t about what we wish we had done in the past. We don’t know how to manage and work with our feelings, so we think regret is about the past.
The past can’t be changed. Maybe only in some B-movies. Feeling an emotion is okay. Let’s see what an emotion wants. An emotion wants to be experienced first and foremost. It doesn’t want to be denied. When an emotion is experienced, its energy is used up. An experienced emotion doesn’t come back.
What happens when you put a lid on an emotion? Well, it’s not too good. It’s not good because you put a lid on all feelings. When you suppress emotions, you deny all your innate superpowers: love, creativity, the ability to appreciate beauty, and the list goes on.
Perhaps it’s more useful to view regrets as a compass in life.
