How to Get Rid of Drama and Build Healthy Relationships. The secrets of the Drama Triangle

“No good deed goes unpunished.” When I first heard this phrase, I thought it was a joke or a way of making light of a bad situation.

Unfortunately, more than once, I’ve found myself in a situation where, while trying to be helpful, I ended up facing reproaches. Moreover, it’s not just me; such things happen to many people.

I believe everyone can give examples from their own lives or the lives of those they know where the intention and action of helping someone ends up in an unpleasant experience for the person involved.

In the meantime, I’ve learned that it’s about a pattern of dysfunctional relationships, very common in everyday life.

In this pattern, there are three main roles:

• The Rescuer: This is the one trying to help or save someone. The archetypal Rescuer often puts their personal life on hold to save someone. You can often find this archetype in superhero movies. At an unconscious level, the Rescuer feels superior to the Victim.
• The Victim: This role cries for help and describes their helplessness impressively. Don’t be surprised if they attract one or more Rescuers. It’s not necessarily about someone being a victim, but rather about a person who feels or…