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Loneliness and the Quest for True Connection

Philip A. Christensen
3 min readMay 5, 2024

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Loneliness and the Quest for True Connection

How happy is a world of lonely people striving not to seem lonely? Maybe it should start the journey to heal their loneliness.

What needs to happen for us to completely rethink toxic life choices, limiting programs inherited from early childhood, and the fear of the unknown?

What do lonely people do? Are they still people? Or what do they do? Do they transform into pain?

Interesting how our concern is not to heal from the isolation of our own feelings, but to pretend to be happy.

It’s a drama for a person living alone to spend Easter without anyone beside them. But the person who is in a toxic marriage and sitting at a table full of It’s strange how we can cry for the pain of lonely people, widows, separated, divorced, grieving, but not for those who are in deficient relational contexts.

The pain is greater next to someone who hurts your soul than next to no one.

Until we heal from toxic relationships, forced interactions, superficial demonstrations of competitive happiness, we will not heal loneliness. Loneliness needs to be embraced.

Yes, loneliness heals if at the societal level we begin to understand that when we are children we cannot choose our family, but when we become adults it is our duty to do so. To…

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Philip A. Christensen
Philip A. Christensen

Written by Philip A. Christensen

Author and coach, I write for ambitious solopreneurs, creative freelancers, and overwhelmed leaders who want to know how to deal with their self-sabotage.

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