Why is it so difficult for us to assume good things about ourselves?

How many of us read minds?

Perhaps you don’t even realize you’re doing it! So I ask: how often do you assume you know what someone else is thinking, and usually, the thought you believe they have isn’t a good one about you?

Do you assume that other people judge or criticize you, evaluate you, or have something negative to say? Do you think people are watching your every move and waiting for you to make a mistake or fail so they can criticize or judge you?

Okay, maybe I exaggerated some nuances earlier, maybe you just believe that most people assume you’re weak or that there’s something wrong with you.

And this makes you feel very scared, very control-freakish, and very insecure.

What if you were to find out that, at some point, between 80 and 90 percent of people worry about what others think of them?

“You can’t control thoughts, but you can control how you react to them.” — John Milton

It turns out that very many, or almost the majority of people worry. They practically use all the power of their brain worrying about what others think of them! I often wonder who has so much time to make so many judgments? Who is judging all of these? And yes, there will be people who will…