When Asking the Right Question Makes All the Difference in Life

What’s holding me back?

It’s a question I’ve asked myself many times over the years.

I was frustrated, angry, guilty, disappointed in myself and everything in between.

It often seemed to me that if I could identify my weaknesses and really understand what was wrong with me, then I could begin to fix it.

Ask yourself what’s wrong with you, and if you’re like most people, your brain won’t run out of answers.

However, this strategy does not create a basis for positive and confident action; in fact, it does the opposite.

It only creates a spiral of negative reinforcement and repetition of failed strategies.

But when I started investigating what didn’t work, or what didn’t work as I had hoped, I started to find something unexpected. I realized I asked the wrong question!

It wasn’t about what was holding me back; it was about what kept me going!

Rather than my weaknesses getting me there, it was more about the misapplication of my strengths.

This really made sense to me.